Rules for dating chinese women
If an American boy goes out to dinner with a Chinese girl and does not pay for her meal, the locals will view him he as having lost "face" or social status and they will regard him as a poor dating candidate.
We are wives, mothers, co-authors, dating coaches, and have been best friends for the last 30 years.
But in general, Chinese students leave high school with a lot less romantic experience than their American counterparts.
For a lot of Chinese people, serious dating starts after they’ve finished school.
Because of China’s rigorous college entrance examination, dating is rarely tolerated among high school students. That doesn’t mean that Chinese teens don’t have high school crushes or even relationships (mostly secret ones).
A girl would only agree to go out on a date with a boy if she were willing to consider marriage.
Expectations about gender roles are much more conservative in traditional Chinese culture than in American culture.
So over fried tofu and mixed vegetables, we each brought our dating problems to the table.
We began to notice that the women who played hard to get, either deliberately or by accident, were the ones who got the guys, while the women who asked guys out or were too available were the ones who got dumped.