Dating a guy smaller than you
We want guys tall, dark and handsome; big men that’ll make us feel dainty and protected; real men who knock their heads on door frames and ask for fourth helpings of dinner. A recent study found that nearly half the women surveyed would only date men taller than themselves.
As if that’s not enough, they are also underrepresented in the business world. While in caveman times I might have needed a hulking monolith of a man to keep me from freezing to death, we live in the era of John Lewis, and I have a really great duvet.
As a very short girl, I understand that a big height difference in a relationship can be awkward.
I can also understand how devastated I would be if I found out a guy I liked wouldn’t date me because of how short I am.
It's not like we get measured during our annual physical and hope we shrink a few inches this year.
His mate, for instance, once came onto me by highlighting my boyfriend’s height and talking about how he himself would go to the gym all the time and happened to be 6ft. I think the phrase, ‘You’re a c**t’ was also used, by me.
I didn’t really think dating a short guy was a thing, I just knew that I wasn’t going to do it. Still, there are a few things you’ll only know if you’ve been in the unique position of dating someone shorter than you. It took exactly two weeks from the point we started going out for me to forget about the fact that my boyfriend is significantly shorter than me.
‘That’s my dealbreaker,’ I would drunkenly say to people while at uni, when I was really wise in the ways of the heart. Recently, there have been studies claiming that short men divorce less, do more around the house and make better husbands. I remember the time frame, because he was doing a gig (he’s a comedian) and me and my best mate went to watch.
It’s not fair to hold height against someone – they literally have no way to control that.
His height doesn’t mean he can’t be a great boyfriend to you. Send her your question at [email protected] you date someone you don’t like that much because he likes you?